Seven Years, Twice His Lifetime
Last night was Meet the Teacher night.
Jimmy’s teacher is new to the school this year. I see him almost every day because I work there too, but we’re still getting to know one another in this new capacity. His EA’s, though — I’ve known them a little longer. I’ve even had the privilege of working alongside them in small ways. Those experiences are something I hold so close, because I know firsthand how deeply they care for the children in their room.
So last night wasn’t about meeting strangers. It was about watching Jimmy step more firmly into this new space that will shape his next seven years.
Seven years.
The weight of that hits me every time I say it. Jimmy isn’t even seven yet, and here he is, stepping into a program where he’ll spend twice his lifetime so far.
The program is called FSP — Fundamental Skills Program. It’s designed to teach him the building blocks we all need: reading, math, and daily life skills like getting himself ready, cleaning up after himself, and navigating the routines of life with confidence.
And if I’m being honest, that realization takes my breath away.
The “School Mom”
Over these first weeks, I’ve realized something I didn’t quite have words for before. What Jimmy needs at school isn’t just a teacher. He needs a “school mom.”
You know how people talk about having a “work wife” or “work husband”? Same idea. Jimmy needs that person he can run to for a quick hug, that safe anchor who sees him exactly as he is. Someone who can push without overpushing, set boundaries while still reminding him he is loved and accepted.
And the bittersweet truth? He has that.
For me, it’s both a heartache and a relief. As a mom, it stings knowing he looks to someone else for that comfort during the day. But at the same time, it gives me profound peace to know he’s found it right where he needs it most.
More Positives Than Negatives
Of course, there are a few bumps — there always are. Parenting and education aren’t smooth roads. But last night reminded me that the positives far outweigh the negatives. The way his teachers and EA’s talk about him, the way they notice his quirks, the way they already celebrate his progress — it’s undeniable.
This isn’t just a classroom. It’s a family.
Gratitude Beyond Words
For the next seven years, these people will walk alongside my son. They’ll cheer for him, encourage him, and guide him toward independence. They’ll get to know him as deeply as I do. And when the time comes to send him off to high school, their hearts will ache just like mine.
I don’t know how to fully capture the gratitude I feel. But I do know this: I have nothing but admiration and respect for these incredible people. They are not just teaching Jimmy. They are helping raise him.
And for that, I will always be thankful.
✨ To the FSP team: thank you for loving my boy, for seeing him, and for pouring so much of yourselves into his future.
My first reaction was laughter. Jimmy cleaning up after himself. After reading of the delights of Jimmy celebrating having his bowels opened and running with the nappy , cleaning up after himself had a new meaning LOL.
As a teacher in my past life and a mum l know how hard it is to hand over the care if your child is hard. For the teacher you are often called mum and we smile. When the reverse happens and YOUR child calls YOU their teacher’s name jealousy can rear its ugly head. However when your child needs to spend 7 years in their care you do need a school mum. This article describes the need perfectly. You need them to have your child’s back. So pleased Jimmy has this school family who will laugh and cry with him as l am doing now reading about it. Your words will reflect the feelings of many parents and guardians. Some may be envious that they don’t get that feeling… yet. Work with your child’s teacher and in time, with the help of Karen’s help, you will find their school mum or dad. Jimmy is one special boy who has found his. A very special evening that brought me to tears. Here’s to an amazing 7 years for all 🥰❤
I’m crying now, Karen you are an amazing woman and I can see why God picked you to be Jimmy’s mommy! Love you girl!